FRIENDS-CUT

[haebin]

I really thought a long time about taking this step is the right thing to do.
And I always kept on asking myself, is it the right thing? Will I hurt someone with this? But… in the end it’s not about the others. It’s about me, right?
And because of that I take this step. I will make a complete friends-cut. And delete all “friends” for the beginning. The question is because, why?

Clear answer: Because probably only a third is reading in here and I start to have the feeling, that most of the people are not interested in the things I write. So, why still be “friends”?
I don’t have to write comments in other LJs for people, who never write a comment in here.
I don’t await from everyone to comment every entry. But I noticed that some people are just friended. And I asked myself… why?
People I know for a long time, since the Gackt-concert in Taiwan, people I’m talking about messengers, don’t have to worry. Just write a short message in here and you’re back-friended ;)
People who never wrote something in here or just write senseless smilie-entries don’t have to read if I feel good or bad ;)

Icon-entries are always public and if I upload something, then I will share it with communities like dears.
That means you don’t have to friend me because of some icon entries or uploads =)
All entries which are “friends only” are extremely personal. And I don’t want to let anyone read them anymore =)

Take care
Anke

Comments

[pixiezdust.livejournal.com]

Not commenting often doesnt always mean not reading. Sometimes some of my friends are busy so I understand when they don't comment. Unless its those who NEVER commented from the start.

I don't know. I do friend-cuts occassionally too. But I don't quite understand how this method works. there will be people who don't comment and still ask to be added, then you'll still end up with the same thing? So how does this friend-cut work?

So far people I've "cut" are those who've not commented in my LJ for a long time, or whom never updated for a long time. Then I don't see the point of being friends since we don't comment/read each others' LJ. and I'll cut them silently without the need to explain myself. i'm bad. but i dont care too much abt them

[haebin.livejournal.com]

Yes, I understand this too of course. I mean, many of my friends are working or are busy with other things. That isn't the problem. But I had people in my f-list who never commented in my LJ. And that made me so insecure, because ... you know, my LJ is very personal and I try to use it as a ... self-therapy? o_O
So, it's a strange feeling to have people in your f-list and you don't know what they are thinking about you ...

And the most people didn't answer on this entry, so they are cutted from my LJ. And I feel fine with my decision :)

And I don't think that you are a bad person, when you'll cut some people of your f-list. I think, you have more self-conscidence than me for such a situation :)