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haebin ([personal profile] haebin) wrote2008-09-19 06:20 pm
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Friends-Cut

Actually it’s kind of „out“ again, but I decided, to make another friends-cut. In my life so many things are going to change and I decided to give my LJ a “resfreshing” update.
I thought about it a while longer, but I always stopped myself because I didn’t dare to do it. Because I’d feel guilty. Because I was scared what people would think about me when I de-friend them.
But I think that time is over. Priorities change. People change.
And I take the word “friends” in LJ really serious. The people on my friends-list are really important to me, I trust them and I would like to meet them in real life anytime.
But I don’t feel like this with everyone in here and so I decided to take these people off of my friends-list. It’s nothing personal and you shouldn’t feel hurt.
You are all nice people, friendly and with a big heart. But our ways don’t go the same path. And I just want people in my LJ who walk the same road.
If I take you off my friends-list then it won’t mean that I start to ignore you, or I start to backbite.
It’s just the one reason that we go different ways and I’d appreciate it, if you would respect my decision.
This LJ is mostly a place about me. And about my family, my friends and my way of living. And like people change, this LJ is gonna change.
That means, if you notice that I took you off my friendslist, you don’t have to promise to comment more often or to read my entries more often.
It’s just about the different ways.

I wish you anyway a lot of luck and success and I’m thankful for the time we talked. I enjoyed it and I met wonderful people.

In this spirit
Take care ;)

Anke

[identity profile] littleflapper.livejournal.com 2008-09-19 05:05 pm (UTC)(link)
I understand even I am sad about what happened to you and your family and as well that I was removed too :( I will keep you on ym own flist, you´re always welcomed, just please take care and even what happened in your family lately is really sad, please don ´t forget there is always hope! *hugs*


[identity profile] haebin.livejournal.com 2008-09-20 12:01 am (UTC)(link)
Thank you very much for your understanding, Maraja. It means a lot for me. I think, the next time I have to go a hard way and I would feel very uncomfortable when I wouldn't commenting in your LJ, because my life is too hard to handle and I am not interested in other people. That would be unfair and I would feel like I would lie to you. And I don't want that, because you are a lovely person.
And maybe in the future our ways will cross again and I have learned to trust the people, I like. To give them a chance again, when they want. *hugs you too*

[identity profile] omg-its-gackt.livejournal.com 2008-09-19 05:16 pm (UTC)(link)
You shouldn't feel guilty about removing people, or what you may write in your journal.
Thanks for keeping me, hun. I love & respect you & what you write, & I hope now you feel a bit better with your journal & yourself *huggies*

[identity profile] haebin.livejournal.com 2008-09-20 12:02 am (UTC)(link)
Thank you, Kryzi! Thank you very much. I feel very comfortable with you and over the last months I feel very close to you. You have the same humor, we have the same topics and you are a wonderful person. I don't want to miss you as my friend. ♥

[identity profile] omg-its-gackt.livejournal.com 2008-09-21 06:38 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm glad that I can make you feel comfortable with our discussions, and I'm sure you know how I feel about you as my friend. I also feel you're a wonderful person & I'm glad that we're friends, & how closely & freely we could talk. I'm very glad we're friends :) ♥ you bb.

[identity profile] haebin.livejournal.com 2008-09-21 07:35 pm (UTC)(link)
*wipes a tears away*
Thank you! *glompz you & don't let go*
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[identity profile] minime17.livejournal.com 2008-09-19 08:20 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sad,but I respect your decision.
Please,hold on and be strong,whatever happens.I will still be with you in my thoughts.

[identity profile] haebin.livejournal.com 2008-09-20 12:07 am (UTC)(link)
Thank you very much for respecting my decision. I am really very thankful for it. ♥

[identity profile] louchette.livejournal.com 2008-09-19 08:42 pm (UTC)(link)
you know i will be here, and try to support you no matter what you do or what happens to you. <333

[identity profile] haebin.livejournal.com 2008-09-20 12:08 am (UTC)(link)
Thank you so much, Kat. I don't know what to say. Maybe because I feel extremely overstrained with my emotions right now. But thanks for everything. And for being on my side. ♥

[identity profile] vickienash.livejournal.com 2008-09-19 09:11 pm (UTC)(link)
I removed a few people a little while back too but I hope that you'll keep me here.

*hugs and ♥s*

[identity profile] haebin.livejournal.com 2008-09-20 12:14 am (UTC)(link)
Yes, I kept you here. ♥~
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[identity profile] haebin.livejournal.com 2008-09-20 12:15 am (UTC)(link)
Don't think, that would be your fault or something like that. You did your best. And I am pretty sure, that every thought and every prayer my mum is helping me. So keep on praying. I'll do the same. ♥~
Ich hab dich sehr lieb, Tini.

[identity profile] isha-chan.livejournal.com 2008-09-19 10:50 pm (UTC)(link)
Like I said before, it's totally okay to make this cut. Your LJ is a very personal place and you're the one who decides about who is allowed to read and who isn't.

[identity profile] haebin.livejournal.com 2008-09-20 12:17 am (UTC)(link)
Thank you, "Mouse". You know, it is always very hard for me to do that, but I think the next weeks/months this LJ will be more personal as usual, so I made this decision. It is that I don't trust some people, but that is not their fault. It is more like the time to know each other was to short to get this faith in them.

[identity profile] nukucamui.livejournal.com 2008-09-20 05:04 pm (UTC)(link)
*hugs* We understand and I'm sure we all will respect your decision. ^3^ *chu*

[identity profile] haebin.livejournal.com 2008-09-20 10:41 pm (UTC)(link)
Awww, thank you very much *huggles you strongly*

[identity profile] nukucamui.livejournal.com 2008-09-23 04:58 pm (UTC)(link)
:) you're welcome my dear.

[identity profile] ezukii.livejournal.com 2008-09-27 01:01 am (UTC)(link)
oh...you removed me....well....i respect that decision....if it was cuz i wasnt on much..then im sorry....tho i wish id still be on your friends list..
Edited 2008-09-27 01:26 (UTC)

[identity profile] haebin.livejournal.com 2008-09-28 02:51 pm (UTC)(link)
Don't think, that you were removed by only "not-being-online". That is not a reason for me ;)
It was more ... we had several months and I don't know anything about you. But you know a lot about me.
And you answered only with one or two words on my entries, so I was kinda irritated.
I mean, when an other person has problems to talk about theirselves, I respect this.
But I can't handle such persons, I am sorry. I want to know my friends ... and not asking myself over and over again: Did I make something wrong or why is my friend always saying one or two words to me...
Edited 2008-09-28 14:52 (UTC)

[identity profile] ezukii.livejournal.com 2008-09-28 10:26 pm (UTC)(link)
oh my. i am so sorry...im not great with words....i didnt mean to offend you...and, i do like knowing people on my friends list as well, so i should understand....but I am really sorry for not responding as i should have

[identity profile] haebin.livejournal.com 2008-09-29 08:22 am (UTC)(link)
Don't feel forced to write something about you, when you don't want it. I respect your decision as well, you know? But it is always very hard for me to handle people, where I feel so damn insecure.