FRIENDS-CUT

[haebin]

I really thought a long time about taking this step is the right thing to do.
And I always kept on asking myself, is it the right thing? Will I hurt someone with this? But… in the end it’s not about the others. It’s about me, right?
And because of that I take this step. I will make a complete friends-cut. And delete all “friends” for the beginning. The question is because, why?

Clear answer: Because probably only a third is reading in here and I start to have the feeling, that most of the people are not interested in the things I write. So, why still be “friends”?
I don’t have to write comments in other LJs for people, who never write a comment in here.
I don’t await from everyone to comment every entry. But I noticed that some people are just friended. And I asked myself… why?
People I know for a long time, since the Gackt-concert in Taiwan, people I’m talking about messengers, don’t have to worry. Just write a short message in here and you’re back-friended ;)
People who never wrote something in here or just write senseless smilie-entries don’t have to read if I feel good or bad ;)

Icon-entries are always public and if I upload something, then I will share it with communities like dears.
That means you don’t have to friend me because of some icon entries or uploads =)
All entries which are “friends only” are extremely personal. And I don’t want to let anyone read them anymore =)

Take care
Anke

Comments

[minime17.livejournal.com]

I try to comment as often as I can,but I can rarely get to the internet lately.And sometimes when I want to say something,I read the rest of the comments and somebody else has already said what I wanted.And then I think-what's the point of writing the same thing again.
So...I won't force you to re-add me,but I would really like to stay.

[haebin.livejournal.com]

You don't have to say sorry to me *hugs*
I know, you commented in the past in my LJ and that's okay for me. And don't be to shy to write what you are thinking *hugs again*
It's not boring or disturbing me, it's more that I can see, what my friends are thinking :)

[http://users.livejournal.com/_ananda_/]

I would like to remain on your friends list Anke, but only if you feel comfortable having me there. I know what it's like having people on your friends list you don't feel comfortable with, it's not a nice feeling.

I would miss you though ;_;

[haebin.livejournal.com]

You don't have to be worried, Trisha. In the last time you became to me a good friend. And I know this uncomfortable feeling. And this was the reason about this friends-cut. I noticed, that all of my entries (or the most of them) are really personal and important and to know, that everyone can read it ... that was finally the reason, that I made the cut. And I'm really glad that all the people I like commented in this entry, including you :)

So, sorry for the loooooong comment ^^
*hugs*

[novalee17.livejournal.com]

ich hoff, ich bin nicht zu spät... :( ich weiß, ich commente auch nicht wirklich oft, vor allem in letzter zeit nicht, aber mich interessiert wirklich wie es dir geht und was du machst. also, würd ich auch gern auf deiner flist bleiben... :)

[haebin.livejournal.com]

Nein, du bist nicht zu spät *knuddel* Und du brauchst auch keine Angst haben. Ich habe für diesen Schritt eigentlich schon gedacht, dass die Leute, die ich sehr gerne haben, auch dabei bleiben möchten. Und ich bin froh darüber, dass es stimmt :)
Es hat mich nur geärgert, dass ich so viele Leute in der f-list gehabt habe, die nie irgendetwas geschrieben haben. Und da dachte ich mir, wieso? Ich mein ... is mein LJ so etwas wie ein persönliches Amüsement für die? Und das wollte ich nicht. Also, wie gesagt, du bist immernoch dabei :)

[beckilein.livejournal.com]

Öh ich auch ._. hoffe ich doch mal....bitte.

[haebin.livejournal.com]

Natürlich mein Herz :D
*ganz dolle knuddel*

[youki-moonlight.livejournal.com]

Ehm...ich weis, ich bin ein sehr schlechter LJist...ich schreib kaum Einträge, ich kommentiere selten...merkt man auch daran, das ich erst heute deinen Post gelesen hab.
Würde mich sehr freuen, wenn du mich trotzdem wieder als friend addest. ^-^

[haebin.livejournal.com]

Okay, weil ich dich halt kenne ^^
Aber ich frage mich ... wenn du kaum Zeit hast, wieso hast du dann ein LJ? o_O

[ezukii.livejournal.com]

erm, add me back? ;_; I wanna be your friend.
My commenting died for a while *fails*

[haebin.livejournal.com]

It's okay, don't worry ;) *hugs*

[energetic-red.livejournal.com]

I know I'm not writing that much comments. But it's not because I'm not interested in what you have to say, it's because I don't know what to say.

I can totally understand your decision but I just wanted to let you know that I would like to be your friend.

[haebin.livejournal.com]

You don't have to explain why you didn't write every day a comment. That's okay for me, trust me *cuddles*
You don't have to be worry, because I added you back of course ♥~

[pixiezdust.livejournal.com]

Not commenting often doesnt always mean not reading. Sometimes some of my friends are busy so I understand when they don't comment. Unless its those who NEVER commented from the start.

I don't know. I do friend-cuts occassionally too. But I don't quite understand how this method works. there will be people who don't comment and still ask to be added, then you'll still end up with the same thing? So how does this friend-cut work?

So far people I've "cut" are those who've not commented in my LJ for a long time, or whom never updated for a long time. Then I don't see the point of being friends since we don't comment/read each others' LJ. and I'll cut them silently without the need to explain myself. i'm bad. but i dont care too much abt them

[haebin.livejournal.com]

Yes, I understand this too of course. I mean, many of my friends are working or are busy with other things. That isn't the problem. But I had people in my f-list who never commented in my LJ. And that made me so insecure, because ... you know, my LJ is very personal and I try to use it as a ... self-therapy? o_O
So, it's a strange feeling to have people in your f-list and you don't know what they are thinking about you ...

And the most people didn't answer on this entry, so they are cutted from my LJ. And I feel fine with my decision :)

And I don't think that you are a bad person, when you'll cut some people of your f-list. I think, you have more self-conscidence than me for such a situation :)

[isabonita.livejournal.com]

OMG OMG *sofort ne message schreib*
nene, aber du hasts chon recht, ich merk das auch schon, aber du hast ja noch viel viel mehr freunde....wie lang biste denn nun schon bei LJ?
naja~ übrigens, du magst anna tsuchiya?
supi ^.^
ich liebe den Song AH AH und rose und taste my skin, ach un eigentlicha lle XD
is nur ich kennw enige die sie auch kennen, deswegen war ich gradn bissl überrascht, abe rumso besser ^^

bussi
isa~

[haebin.livejournal.com]

Ich hatte zumindest viel mehr Freunde, aber das stört mich nicht sonderlich ^^
Ich fühle mich jetzt um einiges wohler *lach*

Ich bin jetzt schon seit zwei Jahren dabei ^^

Ja, ich liebe sie. Die Frau hat einfach 'ne Wahnsinnsstimme ^_____^

PS: Klar adde ich dich zurück ^-^

[vanilla69.livejournal.com]

Sorry about the late answer. It has a reason (which is not you, don't worry).

I'm making it up to you, because I don't want to burst in your life~ (though I already did somehow xD')

[haebin.livejournal.com]

Ah, no problem *hugs*
I know, not everyone can be so often like me in the internet ^^ *laughs*

I add you back, because I know you personal and you are a lovely person ;)

[alley-cat-009.livejournal.com]

*waves arms in the air and jumps up and down* I want to be your friend! PICK ME PICK ME!!
<3
*huggles*

[haebin.livejournal.com]

Okay :)

[haebin.livejournal.com]

*lach*
Ja, ich bin in Ordnung *knuddel*
Ich war nur an dem Punkt angekommen, dass ich echt mal all die Leute rausgeschmissen hab, die hier seit Monaten rumgammeln (das heißt, nichts schreiben). Ich hab realisiert, dass es mir lieber ist, "weniger Freunde" zu haben ... aber die sind sehr wertvoll für mich.
Und dass du dabei bleibst, ist doch natürlich klar *noch mehr knuddel*
Ich hab nur vergessen, dich gleich wieder zuzufügen ^^
Gestern, als ich dann deine Nachricht bekam, ist es mir wieder eingefallen *blush*
Und dein zweites LJ is hier natürlich auch dabei ;)

Jaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa, die Karte ist angekommen :D *hüpf*
Was hab ich mich gefreut :D
Meine erste Karte aus Japan \*___*/

bekommst demnächst nochmal post.*zwinker*

O.O!

[negoto.livejournal.com]

hello dear, i realised that i havent been keeping up with you. i blame the busy schedule.

i hope you are ok. *hugs*

[haebin.livejournal.com]

Hi. That's not a problem, really. You don't have to apologize *hugs*
I added you back, but at the moment I'm ... hm ... on 'hiatus' because of some things that happened the last time. Gomen.

[ryoko293.livejournal.com]

My PC was down when you did the f-cut and I was wondering if you've left LJ when I saw that I was cut ^^;
add me back? <3

[haebin.livejournal.com]

Sure :333

[itsukanomelody.livejournal.com]

i know im not good at commenting. but i always read what you write. and i try to talk with u as much as possible.
lately i limited the time i spent online no almost none.
im trying really hard on that! XD i just realized im absolutely internet-addicted and comp-sticked
and had to change that


BTW did u get postcards? :D

[haebin.livejournal.com]

Yes, I'll add you back.
And I got the postcards :)
Thank you very much for that :3

[into--dust.livejournal.com]

Hi *wink*
Ich bin zufällig auf dein LJ gestoßen und wollte fragen, obs dich stören würd, wenn ich dich adde. Du scheinst echt interessant zu sein und dein Musikgeschmack ist schon mal ausgezeichnet *_*

Ich war übrigens auf dem Gazettekonzert in München <3 sie waren so toll <3

wär schön wenns klappen würd ._.

[haebin.livejournal.com]

Vielen lieben Dank ^-^
Klar, neue Leute kennen zu lernen, ist immer ne schöne Sache =)
Ich adde dich auf alle Fälle zurück :3

Ja, Gazette ist toll *_*
Will mehr ^^

[mizu-ki.livejournal.com]

Can add me as a friend?

I read everything you wrote up there and understand that i have nothing to gain except informations about your life. I want to hear it anyway if especially if Gackt-related (one way or another).

Ato de.

[mizu-ki.livejournal.com]

Can add me as a friend?

I read everything you wrote up there and understand that i have nothing to gain except informations about your life. I want to hear it anyway especially if it's Gackt-related (one way or another).

Ato de.

*edited* Spelling n grammar mistake... sorry for double posting >_